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Yesterday, zheng Xiuwen excuses Xu Zhian in gregarious media dispatch, this result, it may be said is expected.
Zheng Xiuwen sees Xu Zhian 14 years old in TV, fall in love at first sight. Come from some kind of meaning say, she is to make almost annals is installed and enter row; Make annals install the God of since Zheng Xiuwen, also be her spouse.
Before as beautiful as Zheng Wen Lian loves, xu Zhian's cummer is called Cui Jia treasure, cui Jia treasure is patted 14 years old with Xu Zhian procrastinate, allegedly Xu Zhian is to go after Zheng Xiuwen and abandoned Cui Jia treasure.
Zheng Xiuwen enters travel hind, successful autograph restricts the record company that Xu Zhian is in, become small division younger sister of Xu Zhian. 1991, two people appearance sing together " I am had in your heart actually " , one decides affection.
I am had in your heart actually
Xu Zhian of Zheng Xiuwen; - liking you is you
Zheng Xiuwen and Xu Zhian identify love publicly up to now, already 28 years, if calculate,go up Zheng Xiuwen is dark the time of strange sincere feeling, the association of two people has 34 years.
But be in this " Hong Kong fairy tale " in, xu Zhian and Zheng Xiuwen's located part differ from beginning to end it seems that,
Zheng Xiuwen more resemble the keep goal person that is fairy tale
, and Xu Zhian, will string together the door.
Feeling of 28 years, zheng Xiuwen and Xu Zhian close minute minutes. The longest, once parted company 5 years.
During, zheng Xiuwen and Gu Tianle, Liu Dehua passes Guo Fei to hear, confirming later is red is heard nevertheless just. Ancient this year son opens beneficent social evening, sammi went attending, greatly square still square Po photograph.
And Xu Zhian, besides the Cui Jia treasure before Zheng Xiuwen, solid still later dozen had talked about love with Yu Delin of assistant Pan Hengzhang, model on the spot.
It is that is to say in this fairy tale, xu Zhian from only then coming is capable to leave eventually a that. And Zheng Xiuwen, pester big half a lifetime with the An Chi that make keep in mind, during although be in,parting company, she opens a concert suddenly power cut, those who blurt out still is: "Bring a young animal, save me. Save me..
The likelihood that Zheng Xiuwen cares about is not to make annals what do, be together with who, what she cares about is power cut merely when, somebody can rush to hold her in arms; Flimsy when, somebody accompanies her.
Attaching, let us become weak;
Attaching, also let us become compassionate.
The person puts a paragraph of no less than feeling, what do not put those who fall, eventually is his weakness, be not " because know, so compassionate " .
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Zhang Ailing is in " predestined relationship of half a lifetime " in write:
Perhaps love is not enthusiastic, also not be a yearning.
It is years nevertheless, year late month is long the one part that became the life.
Love is a mystery, crazy tangle more long divide hard more. So Zheng Xiuwen excuses Xu Zhian, from her individual for, be no problem completely.
Above all,
From psychological feeling, xu Zhian is her family member,
Relation kissing affection may be early exceeded love impact.
Next,
Be in week of big environment that meet with in, if Zheng Xiuwen chooses to divorce, won't be regarded as the example of constantly strive to become stronger, contrary, want probably to supporting to abandon the cap of Fu, be sympathized with forever.
Exceeding sympathizes with is one kind is debased actually, you are weak, you are poor, you just can be sympathized with by all people.
Zheng Xiuwen is Leo, leo schoolgirl is not afraid of tired, do not fear pain, do not be afraid of death, most be afraid of be sympathized with.
The 3rd, in recreational group, everybody to off the rails affair this is planted thing, include degree of affirmation is taller than Everyman much.
On one hand recreation is encircled handsome male beautiful female temptation is too much; On the other hand artistic worker needs to keep sensitive to passionate height; Although outside light is bright,star beautiful, individual life circle is very actually narrow, add the be a burden on of falling-rising tone name, the life after divorce and divorce, may not is easier than Everyman.
To Sammi, the life is him from beginning to end, not necessary to make some kind of model, and him finish the life.
So, excusing Xu Zhian to be able to say only is the choice of herself, and the option that does not say going up is a mistake.
Zheng Xiuwen can choose to excuse Xu Zhian, the public also can choose not to excuse Xu Zhian of course, later the song of your a respectful form of address for an old person, we need not listen; Play, we need not look; Person, we are OK screen.
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Of Zheng Xiuwen excuse, both neither is accident understandable, but why to say to she is bad set an example? Because of her dispatch.
In excusing statement, sammi calls this event
"The collective one class in our marriage "
.
The lamb gives everybody excerpt:
This is husband and wife the one class between 2 people, also be the one lesson that learns on road of marriage of in the future.
We are walked into in marriage more thorough, the happiness that gives besides each other among marriage is warm, in the center the error that contained each other deeply also is excused with each other.
In the center the error that contained each other deeply also is excused with each other..
Who has not had the person is platitude, but the fact is such truly.
In this in, important, be further marriage of body all previous among them essence, happiness is a field not merely successful and perfect, also have in the center try refine, also experience condition of on any account together, allow the travel before the emotional ply between husband and wife is being guided, more the heart that wants each other to walk into the other side, face up to respective weakness together, do not abandon oneself, do not quit opposite party, correct each other, raise a point each other, in all previous refine of marriage, to the best of my belief experience and lesson can help regain the right path certainly, life more the meeting is reborn.
This character, what Zheng Xiuwen between the lines reflects is compassionate, look do not have illness, very touching even.
But change a point of view, you were excused, appear so big wisdom, even between the lines is alluded " this kind of problem
(affair)
, it is the average one tax in marriage only " , hurried person thinks over, hurried person is aspirant, experienced this one even, future will be better.
This kind is compassionate, have, not strange, but like wanting to resemble preach, draw up come, still write so much? I feel completely needless really. Especially " this is husband and wife the one class between two people " , jump out to say with respect to difference really " do your fart thing " ; Still have " who has not had the person " this sodden fine words, can you also use on the kill person and seize his goods?
Marital in the final analysis is a bond, sincere abiding by is a bottom line about.
Destroyed a bottom line when somebody, the spouse chooses to excuse, it is free namely, also be helpless, but attitude is lowered please a bit, do not dress up oneself into incorporeal cummer.
"He is wrong, I am willing to correct this error together with him, hope everybody gives us time and space "
, this ability is correct set an example,
Do not do so literarily, so compassionate, so energy, do so that seem not to pardon the wives of gentleman affair, it is a state not tall, comprehension like belief of not strong, lack.
Excuse a description to get excessive happiness, be equivalent to from another level beautification affair.
Regard the public as the character, the hair vocal cords of gregarious media has public opinion oriented property, either individual question is so simple.
Zheng Xiuwen yesterday excuse statement, I see friend circle has manpower to hold out, say: "Who is off the rails whose energy is low, choose to excuse, it is the person with old energy, because energy is big, include again so, kind-hearted. Include again so, kind-hearted..
Emmmm, this is not " I am weak I am justifiable, are you strong are you hapless " literary version?
Said again, why Zheng Xiuwen excuses statement, you resembled hitting gallinaceous blood same, even " energy " so Jin Gui's word give be used, when Xiaowang gives a thing with Xiaogu, tell them with respect to nobody, this is the very average one tax in marriage; You want mercy, should have energy; After all, you are strong you are hapless ah...
Of the man bad, of the woman weak, occasionally ourselves is caused.
I contradict at making a couple innocently, the person that also excuse at debasing innocently, contrary, I think with leave photograph comparing, excusing is bigger project, take trouble only, the talent with sturdy volition can choose to excuse.
I just hope to more males also join this " all previous is experienced " in, everybody progresses together.
Can bring what the society progresses to forgive, just be worth ground of do sth on a large scale by advocate, be transmitted, those let the mercy that the times goes backwards, it is good that he is closing.
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