Civil / Xia Mo
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Love perhaps resembles is a dream, give the woman looks forward to and expect. However, marriage is the life of fuel however, have bramble everywhere, the love with ceaseless puncture common dream.
The management of a paragraph of marriage, decided husband and wife can go much further together, also decided the happy index between each other.
In marriage, of husband and wife getting along correctly should be the position that is in equality, assume the pressure of the life jointly, enjoy the happiness of the life jointly, this ability is the loving-kindness between husband and wife.
Meet the woman that do chore and won't make money only, can become the man's appendage slowly, the man cannot see value on feminine body, meet by slowly detest and reject.
The woman is in the position in marriage, want to rely on oneself to strive for, and the woman with those independent economy, often can live more outstandingly.
A woman that has economic source just can have speech right in marriage, the ability that the woman makes money, it is her actually the foundation in husband's family position.
02
The wife did not work in marriage, without money, what kind of attitude can the mother-in-law have?
Boudoir sweet Liu Yi marries 5 years, the husband is a clothing factory boss, also be the boss of little famous energy of life in this locality. Friends say boudoir honey is blessed at that time, married a rich man, next half a lifetime need not be anxious.
Boudoir honey is a young division, the salary in every month in marital eye is insufficient still money of its meal of a dinner party, want to let wife abdication all the time so, enjoy the life well in the home.
But, boudoir honey is not willing however, say this is this interest, also be the profession that oneself fend.
Marry 5 years, she handles chore to the queen's taste, oneself career also got good progress, although the man is very rich, but she also can give the husband to buy a gift with her money, buy cordial to the mother-in-law, have rarely when asking the husband wants money.
Once, the mother-in-law fears she does not have money flower, gave her a piece of bank card of 100 thousand money, she refused however, do not agree to want the mother-in-law's money, the pay that says oneself is satiate drink fully enough, old thing man is being maintained over, need not she worries about.
The mother-in-law sees daughter-in-law is so independent, it is appreciation more to her, it is regard sb with special respect or new views more.
The woman holds to the job after marriage, economy is independent, won the respect of the husband and mother-in-law not only, it is defend more oneself are in the domestic position in marriage.
03
The woman that there is economic independence in marriage can get the sincerity of the husband and mother-in-law is admitted, willing the woman of the furniture that makes the man, what may get generation is abundant, but what be faced with actually is the husband after be tired of abandon.
I have a shirttail cousin to grow very beautifully, all the time the target since can marry a wealthy person namely, go up too back and belly does not have care, the day that need not go to work again.
She is taking purpose sex to seek a target, knew employer of a territory via others introduction later, bigger than her 5 years old, the flesh of go to live in the household of one's in-laws on getting married of bellyful and fat, parents does not agree with this picket marriage, but cousin is determined to want to marry him.
When just marrying, cousin always is showing off the husband to to her many expert, sent her a small litter run, still bought to her of ten plunge drop, the several of 10 thousand famous brand in the home include a package a week is changing a back to be not carried on the back.
Be less than a year, she conceived a child, this is the first child of the husband, the husband wishs to hold the sky in both hands to her, still helped her a married woman's parents' home build a small building.
When be pregnant, the requirement of cousin is very beyond the mark, it is to should eat all sorts of rare cordial, from morning till night knows the net is bought, the mother-in-law saw early to cousin of purpose, because the son is very fond of ability doubly to her,bore come down.
Cousin gave birth to the child later, because of when be pregnant, engorge fills greatly, so the figure restores to come nevertheless all the time, did not work plus her, without income, the husband begins to cold-shoulder a wife slowly, cold-shoulder her fat ugly.
And the mother-in-law sees she spends money every time, make a noise with respect to meeting and her, she is crossed in the life in marriage harder. Spend even her bit of Qian Xiaoshun's parents at ordinary times, the mother-in-law also can blame her for a long time.
The wife did not work after marriage, depend on the man lives, can reduce oneself marital position gradually only, reduce the position in mother-in-law heart.
04
Marriage to life, it is one part only. If want to manage good marriage, the woman should have managed her first.
Colleague Chen Yan, her family circumstances still also calculates previously rich, it is parents is raising a daughter wholeheartedly all the time so, had not sufferred almost in a married woman's parents' home.
Conjugal object also is 1000 pick 10 thousand chosen good men, family circumstances also is be matched for marriage, when just marrying, the life happiness of young couple is happy.
She also does not need to go to work at that time, shop namely everyday, drink drink afternoon tea, also lost hour work.
The mother-in-law feels son's wife is good at the beginning, because,be son and her be matched for marriage, but marry after coming home, just feel daughter-in-law too " fragile " , won't do chore, do not know keep house, can spend money to be like running water only.
Contradiction of wife and mother is increasingly acerb also, mother-in-law also all the time egg on is worn oneself son divorces with her.
Chen Yan's a married woman's parents' home goes out later finish sth, the circumstance suffer a disastrous decline in the home. She also because the concern with the mother-in-law is very intense, dare not look for marital mouth to want fund help a married woman's parents' home so.
Then, she is forced oneself go out to apply for a job, no matter much suffering is much tired, want to be able to make money only it is OK to help a married woman's parents' home.
In that period of time, she grew many, know to want save money, famous brand wrapped a bag to leave two only, other resell, she also is learning herself to do chore, learning careful calculation and strict budgeting to get along.
Imperceptible in, the mother-in-law improves slowly to her manner, the husband sees the change of the wife, also feel she can become active up, work must have tenacity, it is to admire her more.
Chen Yan not only experienced wife and mother to contradict, experienced marital crisis, after having a cause to later, husband's family person is much to her 3 minutes of esteem, husband and wife gets along more and more harmonious also.
The woman has the job in marriage, can get the mother-in-law's respect more easily, and marriage can become more firm.
05
The woman becomes independent in the economy in marriage, be in the value that reflects ego, also can win the man's esteem and appreciation.
The woman has a cause, rich, ability lives know how things stand and feel confident of handling them is angrily, the husband is counteracted to be in equal height to go up in marriage, just won't be seen low, ability won't be ignored.
Marriage needs to manage, actually feminine life also is such. Have the job when the woman, have a cause, when knowing the life that runs oneself, just can send out a glamour, by the husband more intention appreciation.
Did not work when the woman, when the mother-in-law does not respect her, clever daughter-in-law can choose economic independence, the ground that gives oneself a life is angry.
And had managed oneself when the woman, live independently, when giving ego alive, the mother-in-law also can is opposite she more esteem, can reduce the contradictory generation between wife and mother.
The woman has in marriage money and do not have money, decided her happy index, also decided she is in the position of husband's family.
So, woman, no matter when must have an ability that supports oneself, let oneself live know how things stand and feel confident of handling them is angrily, live more comfortably.
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