This time has a very interesting appearance.
Most person although sexual distinction is different, constellation is different, blood type is different.
Having same disposition without one exception however.
Follow a colleague obviously not ripe, however must Ga of toughen one's scalp-brace oneself chats;
Be opposite obviously alcohol is allergic, must drink in meal bureau however spit;
Although not be one passerby, also want to maintain plastic friendship.
Take out the glow of hundred to everybody, tired?
Tired, funny move makes everybody satisfactory, become already it seems that live exclusively law.
01
Take care of everything oneself, smiling face welcomes a person, these are impression it seems that in, public figure of tall affection trade's necessary quality.
But be in in the interview, the Cai Kang Yong of tall affection business says however:
"I encourage everybody to do a cool person.
I do not think too warm it is the good position that maintains a relationship with others, if by warmth two words are bound, more demanding. More demanding..
The person that Cai Kang always is bound by warmth in the mouth, flattery character is typical.
They to take care of all round the person's mood, not hesitate sacrifice oneself apiration and freedom.
Exterior enthusiasm, change with him combustion actually, they are joyless.
Cai Kang Yong encourages everybody to do a cool person not only, he himself also is so do.
Every time before transcribe program, what does the first his thing tell a director to the word is sensitive word namely, later period needs to be decreased.
But he won't say with the honored guest, aux would rather oneself expend some of thing more, also do not want to bring pressure to the honored guest.
Encounter problem all along to endeavor oneself are solved, bother others rarely, this is him the first heavy " cold " .
In addition, cai Kang Yong waits for person all along dim scanty from, connect and his partner small S of more than 10 years also says:
"He below arena seems to a transparent film is being overspread, have distance feeling very much. Have distance feeling very much..
The limit move that gets along with the person is him the 2nd heavy " cold " , but he is not chill to the friend really after all.
When small S encounters difficulty, he always appears the first times, be helped to her and comfort.
Small S yearns for transition, like to act in a play, cai Kang Yong is patted " take eating love " contact her actively, let her pass full play strong interest.
This is Cai Kang Yong those who advocate is cold, he is not to let our thing do not close oneself is high hang.
Hope we are in however be kind to the world while, also can have protected oneself one party Sukhavati.
Hope we are caring others, also can the sound of listen respectfully heart, make oneself comfortable.
02
Wang Kailing has said a such words: The crowd often is the person's graveyard.
Once the person arrives in the group, the desire with respect to meeting him depress, go assentationing desperately the decision of others.
People gets safe feeling and attributive feeling with be gregarious, him proof is not additional kind.
Once little imagine spends energy when maintaining a relationship, can pay lose him dictate the cost of the right.
" the life explodes greatly " in, xieerduteli goes alone, resemble an eccentric.
Not be his disagreement group, in the world that however some of person does not deserve to enter him.
His intelligence quotient 187, in one's childhood because early intelligent be inspected alien.
He did not try be gregarious, be enmeshed in the world of study however, 11 years old attend a college, 15 years old become a visiting professor, obtain double doctor's degree, saw God suddenly gold.
Look not quite enthusiastic, because be disinclined,just spent time to stop on useless socialization.
You are done not have necessary ask holder into life, because have the presence of some of person, can reduce the quality of your life only.
Because worry about oneself,also be not welcomed, and make any changes painstakingly.
Static bud of talented woman Xu not marriage, aspic egg, 45 years old still must resemble a girl alive.
To oppugning her person, she raises doubt conversely:
Why we should be taught to do a congenial girl, is a person that is liked by oneself?
After Chun Xia has the honor to win gold 24 years old to resemble an image, someone says she is bow-backed, not be star face, cannot eat actor meal.
She was not please masses and can make any changes, also not be fear of be fed up with, she says:
"My person is fed up with previously or be fed up with me, but everybody has integrity, be fed up with each other irrespective also. Be fed up with each other irrespective also..
Accept when interviewing, chun Xia has said a paragraph of such words:
What I want is somebody of ten million philtrum comes for me, there is one to Shuguang is me and leave on arena;
I should become the person that you cannot become, become my itself.
She needs a person not enthusiastic, live ardently however fresh.
Never hold the post of a person to order about, true instead and commendable.
Most person is thinking " others hopes what I do " , do not know oneself however " what to want " .
But, before wanting to obtain other good opinion, you must become yourself above all.
03
Always have the person self-identity to win other, not hesitate all cost.
We should do good person, but the excessive good person that cannot do unprincipled abysmal line.
No matter what excessive good person does the idea of first consideration others, bitter finally is him certainly.
Still remember " coat elder brother " Zhu Zhiwen?
He is pure farmer, there still is pallet adobe room in the home before becoming famous, summer leaks rain, winter air leak.
Ascend by right of move nice voice spring late stage, business performs the Zhu Zhiwen after becoming famous ceaseless, economic condition also got ameliorative.
The villager comes in succession " suck blood " , be in charge of him to lend money with thickskinned.
Thinking to be able to be helped is, zhu Zhiwen cannot bear refuse, tens of thousands of tens of thousands of borrow outside, the IOU hit hundreds of pieces.
Build a road to give the village, he was spent from dig down 500 thousand, the villager however not buy it.
Not only such, the villager becomes aggravated even look for Zhu Zhiwen panhandle, wish bleed white he, let him lose a family fortune.
Is Zhu Zhiwen far from the ability of these borer? He had too.
Ground of cruel of in every case refuses, had given a thick soup that close the door a few times, perhaps take away directly, can avoid these troubles.
But he is not done. He is afraid of by stamp backbone, be said to put on airs, he wants to do too " good person " .
Pipeful rice raises benefactor, one stone rice raises personal enemy.
Because of,become you feel embarrassed face, and when granting whatever is requested to others.
When you for please other, not hesitate him sacrifice interest when.
You are changed do not come friendship, more do not count on redound, because be in people look your doing, it is of course completely.
Do not bear when you even, when the mouth refuses, their instead can blame your callosity, was like you to owe them.
Popular feeling is not worth a snake to swallow an elephant.
04
Novel " breathed confess " in have a such words:
"We eventually this lifetime, want those who cast off other to expect namely, find true oneself. Find true oneself..
Consider painstakingly when you when how cater to other, probably you are strangling ego.
Before long, we encircle greatly square square ground to recount in the friend, share, interact happily with the friend.
Do not know from when to begin, circle of friend of follow one's inclinations hair became luxury however:
Like the person of little numerous music, begin to share popular song, he is afraid that be being said is develop a school of one's own;
Love the girl that shoots oneself, hair scenery sends pet, send no longer alone only pat oneself, essence is afraid of bar says her PS.
It is it seems that in friend circle, true mood is not welcomed;
Want to be paid close attention to, cater to everybody's taste with respect to need, act everybody to be happy to see you.
I understand the word that Cai Kang once always had said gradually:
"I should congratulation those people that do not send friend ring, because they found the core of the life. Because they found the core of the life..
Cai Kang Yongxin admires Zhou Jielun, because he was accomplished already,do oneself, also did not harm someone else.
He feels distressed Lin Zhiling, need a person softly all the time, have a place however too him oversight.
Cai Kang Yongxin admires " cold " , it is a choice nevertheless dedicated the life that has lived oneself, let him Shu Xin.
Such " cold " , those who compare be at exert oneself force " enthusiastic " , what come instead is true and commendable.
I persuade you to send friend circle less to cater to other, behave in the life more true oneself.
I persuade you first capable him love, again superabundant force loves others.
After all the centre of gravity that everybody lives, it is oneself.
