The body develops insufficient expression and effect!

Preamble is told, want to let the child feel all combines position development actively forward, the parent must master the basiccest at 2 o'clock, it is, understanding is sensitive period process of in order happening; 2 be, master corresponding and sensitive period feel what all adds up to training to cooperate essentials. Because sensitive period it is life in a certain period immanent exciting to the feeling demand, and sensory stimulation is fitly those who satisfy this kind of requirement is explicit prop up.

So, if sensitive period when did not give pair of feelings stimulation, sensitive perhaps period when did not stimulate to enough feeling, can that child grow what kind of? Come so, the child is destined to be able to develop inadequacy, ability instability, the road of future that grow will very painstaking. The reason depends on: The child's body does not put in his head canal 's charge, body and mind is contradictory, inside and outside is disharmonious. In daily life, behavior expression of the child cannot be accepted, often suffer everybody indissoluble. Body and mind of little imagine child suffers tired, oneself have affliction talk, be stuck innocently even all sorts of label: Termagancy of stupid, lazy, disposition perhaps is waited a moment flabbily.

Above all, if grow sensitive period did not give pair of feelings stimulation, the nerve nutrition that the body has to be less than place of growing rule of each period life to need, the nerve cell of body interior cannot undertake connecting, did not connect did not feel access, so the sensory stimulation that each place place receives the body cannot send brain, cause cerebrum to won't have specific aim, significant action statement to body make known to lower levels, then the body cannot have reaction appropriately to the thing of the outside.

Moreover, if sensitive period when did not stimulate to enough feeling, so the nerve cell of brain function area also cannot get enough voltaic information, connect between cell of each other head also meet very few, so cerebral function cannot full-fledged. The information brain that even if body transmits has receive, but cerebrum is likely because the function is immature, remember without the enough concatenate, feeling that does not have full amount, also cannot make correct behavioral statement so, make body physical ability enough make proper response to the outside.

Two kinds of afore-mentioned that circumstances, the nerve network that creates the child connects quality and ability are different.

Former lay particular stress on is not worth at feeling access, the likelihood has sufficient capacity on acknowledge, the likelihood can have normal show on the gift of tongues, but still be to belong to on limbs movement ham-handed, harmonious sex not beautiful. Often bring about the child so easy tumble, fear to go up to relative superiority or inferiority contuses others unconsciously lowly, easily or overturn others, cannot control the land pen strand or the toy bang up, right new environment does not have safety feeling, right the desire that familiar environment did not explore and the courage that challenge ego, create dedicated force inadequacy, memory difference and the appearance that love to get angry possibly still in the future.

Unluckily such child is met again special care about others to be evaluated to his! Because they have normal intelligence, can be clear about to outside thing identify and understand, compare this fact with awkward others to his body, also be clear and clear of course in the heart. Such child heart is active up, but suffer again tired in the limbs at clumsiness, work at ordinary times so often ability not equal to one's ambition. Below the circumstance that does not match when immanent consciousness and explicit behavior, life is individual because of often nervous, kink and start ego easily to protect a mechanism -- battle or escape.

Face the thing that the body cannot accomplish, such child can cry be troubled by, refuse and shrink back; To can the circumstance that the language conveys, the child will be excessive love, present love speech, when the speech, the mood will be more and more rising, voice will be louder and louder; Like to accost, although do not have a head to do not have end, do not have a key, child a bit also is paid no attention to; Some children still like a solilo-quize particularly, or talk to the toy.

So grown child, it is we are common namely can Yan Shandao however often " say, do " adult. Because,they often are met " unable to do what one wants very much to do " cause " indecisive " or " circuitous mild and indirect " behavior. Because their body ability often lets them feel suspect to go back on one's word, come down for a long time, to the direct distrust of own body, encounter the trouble that once had failed in experience, they can be overruled chronically normally and evasive, did not try to abandon. They often should be in battle or escape between think repeatedly, very painstaking. However, this kind people also is general public normally accepted and special clever person.

Latter slants overweight brain function is immature, each behavior reaction meets the child slant slow. Talking respect: Understanding is slow, say a word progress of capacity of organization of slow, language is slow; Behavioral respect: Have a meal slow, on foot slow, learn cyclist slow, was hit also react slow (did not react even) ; On study performance: Memory is insusceptible perhaps, but understanding is very slow, integrated very slow also, age is older, grade is poorer (because intellectual content and range are bigger and bigger, the child cannot new learning with old knowledge integrated, concatenate, the basis that without casuse and effect the relation understands) .

It is to feel access inadequacy or cerebral function are immature no matter, once the child becomes the host of such bodies, life condition won't nod backwater in some not before, drive instinctively in life below, the child can try hard to try to break through the current situation ceaselessly in growing process. Can appear so " ego makes up for " behavior: Like to run in disorder, frisk, cry in disorder, do not have specific aim so making up for behavior was not helped to the education of ability. If be below the situation that teacher and parent do not understand, the child's ego makes up for behavior to suffer adult puissant prohibit, some meetings become more and more serious; Some must compromise, those who turn to go up for disposition is screwy.

If the child did not get timely effective help all the time, after be brought up, will naturally the body cannot be assumed, psychology cannot be assumed. Because feel all closes a base,a lot of psychology diseases are normally bad, add encounter long-term pressure or acute pressure to cause.

Body influence heart is before feeling all joins faculty 12 years old, this phase passes specific aim, the move tube-shaped part of full amount trains, be corrected than can helping the child more easily relatively and model condition of move tube-shaped part, lay foundation of good body and mind to challenge prospective life. The idea of move tube-shaped part that hopes Hui Xinqian loves wisdom to travel, can help parents, understanding is bearing body and mind bears tired children, practice of specific aim ground rises!